15 Tough Truths for a Resilient Life

15 Tough Truths for a Resilient Life. The truth does not cease to exist when it is ignored. You deserve to hear it, stand strong with it, and use it to your best advantage.

In every situation there is a truth to face. By facing these truths you can live more resiliently, with the knowledge that your life is exactly what you make of it.

If you’re ready to live life on your terms, read these truths and remind yourself, “I will not be a victim of circumstance.”

1. You Are Not the Center of The Universe.

It’s normal to feel like the world revolves around you, but it doesn’t. There are over 7 billion people on this planet, and the only place we know for sure that is capable of supporting life.

If you feel unimportant, remind yourself that you are more than a random collection of atoms. You are a living, breathing human being, and you are capable of changing the world.

You are capable of creating more beauty in this world, however small, and you are capable of inspiring others to do the same.

You are not the center of the universe, but you are a significant speck.

2. the World Owes You Nothing.

You’re not entitled to anything you haven’t earned. Whatever you think your current reality “should” be like, you’re wrong.

Whatever you think people “should” do for you, they shouldn’t. The sooner you understand this, the sooner you can take control of your life in a way that will benefit you.

This is a harsh truth, I know, but it’s also liberating. You are not a victim. You are in control of the life you are living.

If you’re unsatisfied with your current situation, stop thinking about what you “deserve” and start working for what you want.

3. Everything Is as It Should Be.

The idea that everything in your life is as it should be seems a bit far-fetched at first glance, but it’s a concept that can be truly transformative.

When you begin to accept that everything in your life has led you to this moment, you can start to see the lessons in the pain, the beauty in the mess, and the growth in the struggle.

This doesn’t mean you have to like the tough stuff, but it does mean you can accept it and then use it as a tool to help you become more resilient.

4. Success Is a Result of Hard Work.

Success is about dedication. You may not be where you want to be or do what you want to do when you’re on the very bottom, but you’re sure to be in a better place and do things you’ve never done before if you’re willing to push yourself when the going gets tough.

In other words, success is a direct result of the effort you put in. There are no shortcuts. There are no overnight successes.

There is literally nothing that can replace hard work and dedication. With relentless determination, any goal can be achieved. Ignore the noise, focus on yourself, and get wherever you’re trying to go.

5. Good Friends Are Few and Far Between.

Love and friendship are two of the greatest sources of true happiness and security in life. But love is not always about being happy and secure.

It’s about commitment and connection. In the same way, true friendship is not always about happiness and security either. It’s about mutual dedication and connection.

In other words, the most important factor in a strong friendship is not whether or not your friend makes you happy. It’s whether or not you and your friend are dedicated to each other’s happiness.

If the answer is yes, you will weather the ups and downs of life better than the vast majority of people.

So, be there for your good friends and let them be there for you. True friendship is a promise made in the heart. Silent. Unwritten. Unbreakable by distance. Unchangeable by time.

6. Nobody Is Too Busy to Respond to You.

Cell phones make it so that there’s no such thing as a missed call, or a missed text, or a missed email. If you feel like you’re being ignored, you might be.

But the reason is simple: you are being ignored not because you did anything wrong, but because you don’t have a relationship that makes it important for the other person to communicate with you.

It’s not the end of the world. Don’t waste your time thinking about it. If you feel you are being ignored, and you don’t like it, the ball is in your court. Do something about it.

7. The Problem Is You.

The news is not the problem. Your ex is not the problem. Your boss is not the problem. The problem is you.

Resilience is the great human capacity to face, overcome, and be improved by adversity. But there is no power of resilience in blame. Taking responsibility for your problems is the first step to solving them.

The news is not the problem; how you respond to the news is the problem. Your ex is not the problem; how you respond to your ex is the problem. Your boss is not the problem; how you respond to your boss is the problem. And how you respond is up to you.

8. You Are Not Your Thoughts.

Your thoughts emerge from the uncharted universe of your subconscious. They are not you. You are the one listening and observing the thoughts.

When you make that distinction and you can see your thoughts as thoughts, you free yourself from the distorted reality they often create, and you realize you have the power to change them.

In other words, you can use your thoughts to better your life and make the world a better place. You can think better. And thinking better is one of the primary keys to resilience.

9. You Are Not in Control.

At first, this is a tough pill to swallow, and it can feel scary. But it’s also the most freeing of the truths. You don’t have to be in control of everything. In fact, you can’t be.

You are not in control of the actions of others, the timing of events, the outcomes of your efforts, or the way life unfolds.

It’s not your job to micromanage every detail of your life or the lives of those around you. You can’t control everything, but you can learn to be at peace with that.

10. You Are Going to Die.

The only thing as certain as death is taxes, and you are not alone in your financial pain. The one thing we all have in common is that we will all die. It’s the great equalizer of life.

Every rich person, poor person, and person in between; every person of every race, religion, and political affiliation will die.

The last of the 15 tough truths for a resilient life is that you are going to die. That’s not meant to be morbid, but rather to remind you that you have a limited number of days on this planet.

Make them count. Live your life with intention. Live with purpose. Live a life that matters.

11. People Are Not Thinking About You.

People are not thinking about you and they’re not judging you as much as you think they are.

People are too consumed with their own inner dialogue to give you as much time and attention as you give yourself.

You know how it is: You are the only person awake in your head, thinking about that thing you said, worrying about how you look, or wondering if you’re “enough.”

But, you are not alone. Most people are just like you. They’re not thinking about you. They’re thinking about themselves.

And that’s a good thing. It means you can stop worrying so much about what people think and start focusing on the things that really matter.

12. There Is No Time Like the Present.

The best time to start is now. This moment is the first of the rest of your life. But what you do today is important because you are exchanging a day of your life for it. Make sure it’s worthwhile.

Don’t just be good to others. Be good to yourself. And make a commitment to start today. Forgive yourself for what you didn’t know before you learned it.

But above all, try to be a little more loving to yourself, because when you love who you are, you’ll be less apt to look for happiness in the wrong places.

13. You Are Not Special.

The truth is that you are, in fact, special. And you’re not. Both are true.

You are special, but you’re not the only one. You are unique, but you’re not alone. You are important, but you’re not the center of the universe.

The ability to see yourself in the grand scheme of things as a mere dot on the timeline of the universe is a healthy way to keep your ego in check and to keep life’s inevitable setbacks in perspective.

The moment you stop playing the victim, you gain the freedom that comes from taking responsibility for your actions.

14. The Truth Is out There.

You are not entitled to your opinion. You are entitled to your informed opinion. No one is entitled to be ignorant.

If you want to improve your life, you have to challenge your beliefs and assumptions on a regular basis.

You have to get to the truth, even when it feels uncomfortable. You have to search for wisdom, follow your intuition, and keep an open mind.

15. You Are Enough.

It’s not easy to be, say, a 13-year-old girl. But it’s not easy to be a 13-year-old boy, either. We all go through the same basic stages of life, and we all have our own unique challenges.

But no matter what those challenges are, we have to realize that we are enough. You are enough. You have enough. You do enough. Believe it.

You are enough means doing your best and being comfortable with that. You are enough means understanding that the purpose of life isn’t to be happy all the time, but to be fulfilled.

It means handling life’s ups and downs without letting them take you down, and living your life with purpose, intent, and compassion.

In the end, you are enough means you are capable and worthy just as you are, and that you don’t have to be someone else or do something else to be ‘enough.

You are enough, and the more you believe it, the more you will see and feel it in your life.

Conclusion: 15 Tough Truths for a Resilient Life!

You have to fight through some bad days to earn the best days of your life. So please hang in there.

You are not alone. Better days are coming, and you have the power to make them happen.

Your turn…

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